Does your sex life slow down when those sleigh bells start jingling? If so you’re not the only one!
A 2011 study found that couples argue more in December than any other month of the year. The average couple surveyed argued four times a day, totalling 124 arguments between December 1st and New Year’s Day.
What’s even scarier is that one in twenty people asked said that they doubted their relationship would survive past Christmas day. For 23%, things got so bad they decided to give up on their relationship for good.
Don’t let the Grinch steal your Christmas. If you’re struggling to make time for your relationship in between wrapping presents, peeling brussels sprouts and frantically checking your bank account, here are some tips to keep your sex life fun and frisky over the holidays.
- Be a sexy Santa Claus
Get started early with the festivities and make your partner a sexy Christmas stocking filled with things that will give you both something new to get excited about. Try a blindfold, a cock ring, or go all out and get them The Wand for some serious Christmas magic.
2. Sneak around
Christmas is a busy time of year so save the big romantic gestures for Valentine’s Day. Instead, try sneaking in little moments where and when you can. If you spot an opportunity, grab your partner by the hand and scurry off to find a quiet corner. You could even have a secret sign to let each other know that it’s time for a little bit of play – maybe a wink, a hand signal, or a code word.
3. Send your partner sexy Christmas mail
Sexting isn’t just for long distance relationships. If you’re struggling to find time to be together, try sneaking off on your own and sending some pictures to your partner. If you’re really in a rush The Bullet is the perfect, pocket-sized way to speed up and intensify your play time. They’ll get a kick out of reading your sexy texts, and might be inspired to grab some alone time of their own.
Naps are the best part of Christmas. They’re also a perfect excuse to give you and your partner a chance to get frisky together. After a big meal or a long Christmas walk, excuse yourselves for half an hour and spend some quality time in bed.
If you and your partner are so rushed off your feet that you forget to carve out time for each other at Christmas, invest in some mistletoe as a reminder. Place some in a few locations around your house and use it as an excuse to have a few intimate moments. You’ll find that after a few days you get so used to it that it’ll become automatic. Kissing more often prompts your brain to release a cocktail of hormones that increase your sex drive and your connection with your partner.
6. Embrace the season of giving
If you don’t have time for the full monty, embrace the spirit of giving and make this quickie all about them. Oral sex is a great way of making your partner feel loved and cared for, and of letting them know that even at the busiest time of year you’ve got the energy and the motivation to do something special just for them.
7. Shower together
If you’re in a rush, combine your shower with your morning play time. This is a double winner – save on time and squeeze in some extra intimacy. Adding this kind of moment to your routine will remind you to make space for each other.
8. Bring your favourite Christmas treat to bed.
Bring the festive spirit back to the bedroom by bringing your favourite Christmas treat to bed. Try eating brandy butter off each other, or replacing your handcuffs with tinsel. You might surprise each other with your choices, and thinking creatively about sex with your partner will only heighten the anticipation.
9. Make their Christmas wish come true
Write down something you’ve always wanted to try on a piece of paper and exchange your Christmas wish with your partner. Do this in the morning and let the excitement build over the course of the day before you find the time to try it in the evening.
We’d love to hear how you’re planning to spread the festive cheer with your partner this Christmas.
Written by: Jess Bolton